Amelia Ashton

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  Hello to everyone.... and could I ask a really basic question here please...

  by JamesS in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm james i'm new to this forum as of today and i'm a ex-jw who was "born into the truth" and then left it officially at the age of twenty after "drifting out" of it for some time.

  i'm now 34 and whilst i'm not exactly happy with the world i'm living in, i'm largely happy with my own life.. one question i've got about this forum - i didn't join for a long time because i thought it was for active jw's (based on the web-site url), not ex jw's, but then looking at the threads, it seems it is more for ex-jw's!

  what is the demographic for the membership?

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  Amelia Ashton

  Hi James

  Welcome to the site.

  I am in the South too, near Portsmouth but originally I was in the Horndean Cong.

  Amelia
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  Disfellowshipping Offense

  by Had To Go in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i went to my sister's wedding this past sunday, which happened to be smack dab in the middle of a church service.

  my all faithful husband told me it was a dfing offense and that he was obligated to tell the elders that i was going to a church.

  i really could care less about the actual act of being df it is the fact that my husband felt the need to "turn me in".

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  Amelia Ashton

  I went to my non jw daughter's church wedding (they wanted a nice background for the photos ) with another jw sister and we sat at the back of the church. Busybodies, gossips and elders said nothing, not to my face anyway!
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  March 2nd 2010 was.............

  by cantleave in

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  2. friends

  ........the last meeting i ever attended.

  one whole, meeting free year, many more to come..

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  Amelia Ashton

  Happy 1st Anniversary of freedom.
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  Here i am....

  by makersmark in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  here i am - born in truth, hard-core spiritual everything all my life, early reg.pioneer, ms, elder, assembly parts, tour at bethel, etc, married now...... i'm trying to examine jw teachings a little closer...... i've spent the last two weeks reading many many posts, info , references on where ex-jw's are coming from.

  i'm kind of concerned about a few things lately..... honestly - some points make sense to me - some don't - here are my general thoughts:.

  -wt getting un membership for access to library - doesnt bother me - some passports and other governement documents have similar forms and requirements..... -blood issue - some counterpoints to the jw 'rules' makes sense (original intent of scripture is unbled animals, white blood cells similar in mothers milk) etc -however a lot of 'apostate' reasonings and proof are inaccurate.

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  Amelia Ashton

  Not sure what to add other than welcome, glad you found us and I agree with everything nugget and everyone else has said so far.
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  Does anyone out there understand how i feel?

  by TimothyT in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  my name is tim, im 23, from the uk, and im currently a jw!.

  ok... to cut a long story short... i love serving jehovah but ive begun now to embrace my sexuality as a gay man.. although im still attending the meetings, praying to jehovah and trying my hardest, i can no longer lie to myself about my sexuality.. i have had enough of feeling depressed and confused now - its killing me!!!.

  does anyone else know what i feel like?

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  Amelia Ashton

  Southern England here.

  Pleased to meet you and welcome to the site.
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  wish me luck visiting my JW mum today

  by nugget in

  1. social
  2. family

  we're visiting my jw mum today for the first time since the df'ing.

  i have put it off for months but we have to bite the bullet at some point and my dad has phoned to ask us to come today.

  it doesn't bode well as she has put her back out and is a little grumpy today but my dad has asked so i don't want to let him down.. .

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  Amelia Ashton

  Hope it all goes well for you and cantleave.

  Hugs and kisses to you both. xxxx

  Amelia
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  Abusive Women and manipulation

  by Lady Lee in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  the other day we were talking about abusive mothers (toxic relationships).

  i was sent this link today and think it is worth sharing.

  i think it is an excellent article.

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  Amelia Ashton

  Lady Lee, that's my mother.

  The book never met her but has described her behaviour perfectly. I knew she was toxic which left me ripe for JWdom when they came knocking but I always thought everything was my fault.

  I accepted 20 years ago I would never get her approval and she would criticise me til the day I died so I stopped speaking to her. Unfortunately for me the damage is done. Her voice telling me how useless I am still resonates in my head on a daily basis.
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  Top 10 Memorial Excuses

  by rebel8 in

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  good excuses.

  pinkeye.

  (highly contagious, and you aren't supposed to touch other people's dishes and glasses.)tuberculosis.

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  Amelia Ashton

  I wasn't invited.
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  new member

  by chase in

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  2. friends

  so is everyone here a jaded ex or is it a mixed crowd?

  i am da.

  with an overzelous mom.

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  Amelia Ashton

  Welcome all newbies. Great to meet you and welcome on board

  I am a fader, not d'ad or d'fd yet. Last meeting was memorial 2009 in Southsea, Hampshire, UK.

  After much studying I am now living free of any guilt or fear and have found myself, very surprisingly especially to me, to be an atheist!
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  THE WATCHTOWER SOCIETY ENCOURAGES LYING

  by Hairyhegoat in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  the wts informs its followers that they are not: "under obligation to divulge truthful information to people who are not entitled to it.

  " (insight on the scriptures volume ii p. 245).

  "for the purpose of protecting the interests of god's cause, it is proper to hide the truth from gods enemies... this comes under the term war strategy.

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  Amelia Ashton

  If we tell a lie we are liars and therefore a child of Satan who is the Father of the Lie.

  If JWs lie its called Theocratic Warfare therefore JWs do not tell lies.

  I think that's how it goes.